First off, take note that this is an advanced move–and a move that’s particular for people who tend to err toward the side of being disconnected rather than overly-connected. It’s not to be toyed with when you’re just attempting to become sexually sober–you can get yourself back into trigger-land and find yourself browsing the digital bath houses on craigslist or something if you’re not careful.
But so if you find you’re in that stale, dry state or you have been avoiding experiencing your own power and sensuality, this exploration may be for you. It’s time to start getting curious about what brings you joy. What are you passionate about? What turns you on?
The quest is for how to have your aliveness, your power, your sexuality, and also stay centered. It’s a tricky line for us to walk, and it’s different for each person. You may take yourself out dancing. You may get out to a party with a sexy dress and feel your flirtatious self. You may take a tantra class and develop a solo practice that invigorates you.
Last year, for my birthday, I took a bath in whipped cream. It was pretty hot. And I didn’t let my new boyfriend near. It was a sacred experience I wanted to give myself, and it brought all the sexy aliveness I was wanting. And you better believe I was feeling my power that day!