Welcome to The Oy to Joy Workshop!

(Are you ready to stop obsessing about love and find life fun again?)

Start the adventure to recovering your sense of humor,
sense of perspective, and sense of Self.

From Alicia Dattner
San Francisco, CA

Dear Fellow Romantic,

Do you love… love? I mean, is it the thing that gets you up in the morning? The thing that drives you to do all the other things? Do you ever feel like loving someone else (or a lot of someone else’s has caused you to lose your sense of self? Like some rogue part of you believes that other people have the Love, and you need It from them?

I did. I spent 15 years in obsession and suffering with love, relationships, and sex. I spent all my time making myself seem incredibly cool, sexy, and interesting to other people. But one day I realized the truth: that everything I did was an elaborately crafted attempt to get men to love me. And damn, that was a lot of work.

I realized that if I kept going on that path of falling in love with everyone and everything but myself, I was going to die with my music still left inside me. So I wrote a comedy show about the pain, and it changed my life. 

I don’t want you to die with your music still inside you. You are innately gifted and talented. You are powerfully intense. You are pulsating with aliveness. You have a gift to bring to the world. It may be covered over with layers of gunk, but that still small voice is always calling to you to be heard. Like in The Fly. Help me! Help me! Can you hear it?

You know there is an f-ing powerhouse inside you waiting to be unleashed… but you need a way to access it. And everything you’ve tried up to now is so serious, heavy. You’re sick of all the hollow self-help affirmation bullshit that pumps you up with a lot of high-energy “you can change your whole life this instant!” stuff, but ignores what’s really going on and leaves you more obsessed and depressed than before.

You know what you need is some kind of divine crowbar to pry you from your seriousness so you can get on with your life, right? But how?

Survey says? Levity! Humor is the divine tool that pries our ego from its death-grip. It’s Spirit’s gift to us… it allows us to look at the most painful, dark shit deep inside us and helps us trick ourselves into seeing what’s beautiful, good, and true in every moment.

And so I invite you to:

The Oy to Joy Workshop

Seven weeks of intense aliveness, deep acceptance, and righteous truth-telling that culminates in a life-changing comedic performance you bring to the world!


Seven Weeks:
The Oy to Joy Workshop

  1. Beginning: Acknowledge what’s not working. With the help of your trusted Source, you can begin to recognize and accept what hasn’t been working. You may have already done this in 12-step recovery or spiritual work. If so, great! We’ll go even deeper from where you are…  If not, you’ll discover how in this first week.
  2. Surrender. If how you’ve been doing things so far isn’t working, surrender is a nice option. Kidding. It’s the only option – ha ha! Spirit has something wildly more miraculous for you than you could imagine.
  3. Start creating again. From this place of perspective, we can begin to tell new stories to ourselves and others about our love lives. Spacious stories that allow us to have freedom, joy, aliveness, and choice. As we begin to channel all the energy and intensity–energy we used to spend on obsession–into creativity, we find our lives become filled with ease, light, and love.
  4. Start feeling againAck! Feelings! What the heck do you do with those? Well, you may be familiar with the ol’ drama-queen Feelings with a capital F. But what we’re digging for here are the feelings underneath. The true emotions and sensations–powerful ones like desire, passion, anger, curiosity, bliss–because they point to the bigger truths.
  5. Start laughing again. Your truth can sometimes be hard to look at. But bringing in compassion is key. Laughter is deep compassion. It’s a way of holding ourselves in love and lightness. Laughter is God’s gift to human kind. Laughter increases pain tolerance,strengthens the immune system, and releases endorphins and oxytocin. It’s so powerful we often take it for granted or overlook it, but aside from massive doses of psychedelics, I haven’t seen any tool that more radically changes one’s state of being in such a short time.
  6. Recognize your brilliance. You are a child of the Universe. And I don’t mean that you should join a commune and start wearing beads. You’re a brilliant star, waiting to shine. When you were born, you were magically, momentously perfect, and you knew it. You were sensitive, unique, bright, intense, aware, and powerful. You were gifted and talented. As you “grew up,” people who loved you, tried their best to teach you how to survive in the big, bad world. But dammit, they didn’t teach you how to channel your gifts and create amazing things on earth! You found a way to survive, to fit in, by numbing your feelings and your intensity with love, sex, fantasy, or even food or work. This step will help you re-member your Light.
  7. Humor; tell your story again. Your new story! In the past, you told your old story of pain and suffering over and over again. So many times you believed it. And so did we. In week 7, you get to tell your new story–the one that’s infused with divine light and laughter–with such power that you believe it! The culmination of this workshop is an evening of humorous storytelling in which you speak your new truth to the others in the workshop as well as your family and friends. It’s you declaring, “Here I am, dammit! I survived myself. And what a crazy story I have to tell you!” (And everyone starts to laugh with you in anticipation.) Scary, right? It’s also breathtakingly transformative.
  8. Completion: Live your new story! As you venture forth into the world with your new story, you create a new trajectory for your life. Not only that, you’ll begin to see a whole new kind of life where the story actually doesn’t even matter any more. This is a whole new way of being liberated in the world that you will begin to have access to when you emerge from this process.
If you are ready to get off the fence and commit to going higher and deeper–and funnier–it is your time to do this work. If you want more from your relationships, more from yourself, and more from your Source, it is your time to do this work. If you’re tired of coming from the place of ‘But I want more!’ … then it is your time to create more, by beginning The Oy to Joy Workshop.



The Oy to Joy Workshop
January 12- March 6, 2012
Oakland CA 

Space is limited; please register early.

Don’t live in the Bay Area, or want to do this work individually?
I also coach people privately. Email me (there’s no time like the right, eff-ing now.)

Are You Ready to Finally Let Go and Love Your Life?

This workshop is about fun. And love. It’s about letting yourself go to that place in your heart that’s been waiting to finally be free. To be loved. To sing! To dance! What’s that sound? Do you hear it? It’s very faint… could it be the sound of your heart, calling to you? Your soul, calling to you to come alive?

You’ve heard the cliche a million times, “Before you love someone else, you have to love yourself and your own life first.” Have you ever thought, “Well, no one ever frickin’ taught me how! I just don’t get how.” This workshop will not only show you how to love yourself, it will also teach you how to love others. And if you’re ready to let go, you can find what you’re looking for.

But don’t take my word for it. Let folks tell you in their own words…

How to Know if The Oy to Joy Workshop is Right For You
If you’re concerned that you’re not ready or don’t know how to really do this… then Oy to Joy is actually perfect for you. It’s truly a ‘sorting out’ place where you get far deeper clarity on that elusive, but powerful sense of self you are here to claim. On the other hand – if you know your “problem” clearly but just need more ‘mojo’ to move yourself out of an old pattern around love, you’ll find that here as well. Think of “Oy to Joy” as a place for spiritually-oriented women to surrender more deeply to their innate gifts, wherever they are in their love lives. It’s like a spa visit for your soul. If you feel it in your gut that you are meant to be here… then you are.

Comedy: the culmination of The Oy to Joy Workshop

Oy to Joy ends in a comedic storytelling evening with the performance that YOU create. Each week, you’ll unlock a new key piece of your story, and you’ll be looking for the humor inside the pain.

Want a taste of how Alicia turns pain into laughter?

Astrologer Paul Bogle“The recent visit from my family, went very smoothly and everyone seemed much more comfortable before, during and after our visit. There is nothing else to ‘explain’ what seems to be a healing from the family trauma, but I suppose the family constellation work and the voice-dialog work is really having an effect on the whole family system.”

– Paul Bogle, Astrologer


So … are you feelin’ it right now?

Are you feeling that inner tug that knows there is some irrefutable truth here? That you are in the right place? That no matter how you got here … something’s at play that’s bigger then you or us?

This may be the first personal growth workshop you ever attended that culminates in a comedic performance full of truth-telling and transformation!

If you’re sick of the “hard work” and the seriousness teachers approach healing with, this course is for you.

“Alicia is a very gifted facilitator. I am grateful to have met her.”

“I’ve been having a great ride since our journey! Hard to explain, but there’s been a huge shift in my life with your work and a soul retrieval I just did… and it’s like my head was on crooked before. Thank you so much for your beautiful and healing work!!! Shine on!”

– Salvatore Manzi, Feng Shui Life Mapping (Salvatore did a one-on-one creativity coaching session with me)

“Why did I wait so long? That was exactly what I needed.”


But, what if…? Answers to Frequently Asked Questions:

  • What if I want to change my relationships, but I don’t really want to do the work? Ha!  That’s funny already! I imagine you could be just a little scared of how amazing your life could be.
  • What if I’m not funny?  That’s good! If you’re suffering, and you tell the truth about it, and you’re taking yourself lightly…. people will relate to you and laugh.
  • What if I don’t want to get up and take the stage? Can I just do the workshop?  Taking the stage is a metaphor for stepping out into the world. You’re at the stage that it’s time to take the stage.
  • What if the things that happened to me or that I did were really embarrassing? What if I can’t talk about that in front of people I know?  The worse it was, the better it gets. This is an opportunity to clean your slate.
  • But there are a lot of other workshops out there for people with “love troubles.” Why should I take this one? One word: humor. If you’re tired of taking yourself seriously, if you’re tired of the airy-fairy healing approach, if you’re tired of the struggle and strife of trying to “change,” this is the workshop for you.

Deep Bliss Laughter Yoga October 2011


“I was amazed to see how much of a difference the workshop made. The pace of my project accelerated, and I witnessed two blocked writers suddenly become prolific and a singer return to music for the first time in years.” 

Jason Fisher

I find Alicia to be amazingly present, compassionate, gracious, playful, and vivacious.

Working with Alicia is inspiring. Working with her is effective and fun, and she maintains a safe and comfortable space for creative and personal exploration and unfolding. I was amazed to see how much of a difference the workshop made for me, as well as for other students.  The pace of my own project accelerated, and I witnessed two blocked writers suddenly become prolific and a singer return to music again for the first time in years (she’s almost done with a whole album since taking Alicia’s course.)

Her ideas have helped me tremendously along my journey.

— Jason Fisher, The World Peace Game (Jason took a Creativity Course with Alicia)




 Dr. Susan BernsteinI walked away feeling lighter and more hopeful. I’ve turned a corner!

” Working with Alicia, I felt totally welcome. We meditated and then she listened to the issues I was facing.

She created a framework where I could work through these issues, and it was both super creative and compassionate. I walked away feeling lighter and more hopeful. Yes, she uses a great technique. But so much of the experience is Alicia and the person she is — intuitive, heartful, and caring. Thank you Alicia! : ) ”

— Dr. Susan Bernstein, Work from Within (Susan did a Family Constellation with Alicia)


Results You Can Count On at The Oy to Joy Workshop

I can guarantee you that if you put your heart into this experience, it will serve you well. So well, in fact, it will provide exactly the shift you want to make … both internally AND externally as expressed through your relationships with others.

Here is what you will receive as part of Oy to Joy:

Clean your slate and start anew with love and sex

 Learn what’s not working with how you’ve been approaching “love”

Experience the beauty of your intensity

Find love, acceptance, support, and camraderie

Learn to use laughter as your key tool for transformation

Turn your romantic sob story into a romantic comedy

Re-focus your brilliance toward your true passion

Build real confidence and self-esteem

Re-discover your true voice, playfulness, and power

Did You Know Your Higher Self is Calling to You?

Truthfully, who knows how much time we all have left to make a powerful difference in the lives of others? Not because some ‘terrible fate’ awaits us all ….The call to the arms of love is now because this is what your Soul is craving … and boy, do they want and need you to come alive…Yes, your highest self has a your vibrant future is waiting for you. And it may take a declaration of this magnitude to open your ears and your heart to hear their guidance.


This is the work you may need if you’ve ever had any of these thoughts or feelings:

You “lose yourself” in relationships, and don’t know how to pull yourself out of their grip

You know there’s more to love and romance than the empty feeling you currently have… but you don’t know how to get it

You tend to over-analyze, over-think, and generally take yourself too seriously

You have a crazy family–and you know joking about your childhood is going to help you take them–or you–less seriously

You are boring your friends and possibly even your therapist with the same stories about love

Your relationships always go the same way: bad, and you want to know how to do them differently

You used to be creative, self-expressed, and powerful and you want to find the way back to that kind of life

You’ve had a spiritual awakening… and now you wonder how to translate that into a shift in your love life

There is something bigger and more powerful that you are meant to do on earth… but your love life is getting in the way

**Just know that you’ll go from ‘Wow – my life is all right or pretty good’ to ‘I am here to LIGHT UP THE WORLD WITH MY SPIRIT AND MY GIFTS, NOW!!!’

“Alicia’s amazing humor at her gathering this past Saturday continues to warm my soul.”

“It was an exceptional time had by all. This was a wonderful time to reconnect with the joyful beings that we are. Thanks to all that attended. It’s such a rare opportunity to make such a strong connection with strangers.”

-Robert Behr (Robert attended Deep Bliss Laughter Yoga)

“This work brought me back in tune with a part of myself that I had lost. I felt more grounded, focused and healed from the process.”

Want to start right now? Here’s what you get right NOW:

It is my pleasure to offer you all of the following the moment you enroll to attend The Oy to Joy Workshop. My aim is to help you ‘prime the pump’ so that you can come to the workshop ready to dive right in:

A lively discussion board connecting you with creative and unique folks just like you

An action partner for the duration of the course to check in with about how your process is unfolding

A powerful flow of guided information from Alicia that will help you more forward to just where you need to be next, next and next in your journey

An engaging Field Guide that provides additional material, resources, ideas and empowering content … so you’ll continue to get value in between each session

22 Secrets to Divine Creativity eBook

How to Write a Joke eBook & workbook

Taking time off from dating eBook & workbook

Three meditations to shift the focus of your energy & brilliance and bring lightness into your life

Where is The Oy to Joy Workshop?

Bay Area, California


A Beautiful, Convenient … and More Peaceful Location for Oy to Joy!

Sunny Oakland California is a special location–just 15 minutes from San Francisco, but miles away vibrationally; the East Bay is warmer and more relaxed than the City. The workshop is conveniently located just a few blocks from a BART station, so it’s easy to get to whether you’re in SF, the North Bay, or anywhere in the East Bay.


Register for the The Oy to Joy Workshop

The cost of this journey into your sense of humor, perspective, and self is now only $797.

This is an investment you won’t regret – You have my word.

In fact, this price — even ­without the Bring a Friend for Free Special –- is substantially lower than just about any other live weekend event around. And given the unique nature of Oy to Joy, which is like a relationship workshop and a solo performance workshop rolled into one, that’s saying a lot!

Or You Can Bring a Friend … for FREE!

You know what’s seriously fun — and practical? Making shifts like this in the company of a dear pal or even a new friend. I am delighted to invite you to share the love here and bring a good friend.

Best of all — you’re in it together! You can do the exercises together (though it’s always great to connect with new like-minded others at these events.) You can room together. You can fan out, schmooze, and bring together a whole new group of fun people for you to befriend and enjoy. Alternatively, this is also a particularly great opportunity for you to have a little ‘getaway time’ from your regular friends–bring someone you’ve just met!

Finally, when you leave the event, you’ll leave with a support structure in place. Now you know who you can call as you implement what you’ve learned and move forward on your own oy to joy quest. Such support is so wonderful – it really helps you keep the mojo going long after you leave!

Your moment to decide has arrived…

Is today the day you will honor your highest self and dissolve into the love you are capable of delivering to the world? You’ll know if you feel that familiar sensation in your stomach …a quickening that says ‘This is for me!’

Even though you might be scared to begin the journey.

Even though you might think you’re not quite in a place to begin. (In fact, that’s one of those smoke screen obstacles our minds love to throw up.) Hold steady to your guidance, friend. It can be trusted!

Even though you’ve done “lots of these things” before. (If you read the comments from participants above, there aren’t any other events like this in the world. I promise!)

On the other hand, if you’re getting a clear no … beautiful! I honor your clear decision and thank you for reading this page. And I sincerely hope there was value for you here even just in reading this. My intention is to touch everyone who walks through this virtual door, and that would include you.

Finally, if you’re just plain uncertain, be in touch with me. Talk to Sibley at info at theoyofsex.com and she will guide you. Any questions she cannot answer she will refer directly to me.

If you are ready to begin Oy to Joy – the journey begins now!

Here’s How To Order Right Now!

1 Dive-In Payment of $997

You can bring a friend for free and a separate email will be sent to you so you can register them.


3 Easy Peasy Payments of $237

Alicia Dattner’s Totally Reassuring Guarantee

It is my passionate commitment to serve you 100–no make that 111 per cent with this work — and I want to make sure it’s a fit for you. If for any reason you’re not entirely satisfied with The Oy to Joy Workshop, you are welcome to a 100% money back guarantee until the end of the second week of the workshop. All you have to do is ask and your money will be refunded, no questions asked. Your refund will be issued within one week to your credit card.

If I am meant to help you in this task, please sign up now. The transformation really does begin the minute you sign up. (If you’re like a lot of people, you’ll notice a new confidence and clarity in your relationships already!) Thank you so much for taking the time to read this fully. It is truly my greatest pleasure to serve you.

In love and laughter,

Alicia Dattner

The Oy to Joy Workshop

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