Blessed One,

You’re right where you need to be.

I see what you really want is to have the experience of feeling yourself, your essence. You’ve felt this with others, reflecting your essence, reflecting the divine in you, and you’re trying to see it in them. But then your divinity depends on their presence. And what you really, really want is to feel it, to feel Me, on your own. So you get angry when others reflect anything but the highest truth. You get resentful and cynical. But deep down, you know that only you can show yourself your truth. Deep down, you really only want to be with people who support the highest truth, who don’t buy into the illusion of the small Self.

What you want is to see the world through my eyes. To share your life with me and feel the gifts of living a divinely inspired life. To live in harmony with me. To feel yourself as many moments as possible. To explore the world and play. To give and receive love. To be expansive. To see how high you can soar. To live with integrity and dignity and to play “full out”, even when that means resting!

I get that what you’re wanting is compassionate truth. And reality. You’re wanting clarity. Let’s remember that it’s not even a question if you are “too much” or “not enough” or “lovable”. My questions for you are, “how open is your heart?” “how are you loving and caring for yourself?” “how much of your precious truth are you sharing in this moment?” “how much love of my boundless love are you up for letting in?”

When challenging things happen, know that I am not abandoning you. I have only love for you. Challenges are not a sign that you are “doing something wrong”. They are a sign that you are alive. They occur, partly for your growth — to open you to a new way of being or a new possibility — and partly for reasons you cannot know or understand at this moment. Know that I am completely here with you at every moment, and feel me whenever you call me in your heart. You are infinitely OK, as I have made you in my own image.

Rest in the Divine Heart,

Your Creator


I Can’t Stop Thinking about Tony…

by Alicia Dattner on April 3, 2012

The Kids in the Hall, a sketch comedy group from Canada in the 90’s had some brilliant things to say about love addiction. This sketch has stayed in my mind for twenty years–I just watched it again, and it made me laugh out loud (which is hard to do). It’s so over-the-top, but SO ARE LOVE ADDICTS. Have you ever felt this way? I totally did.

Obsessing over men was a pastime, an occupation, an anesthetic, a distraction, and a talent. I used to pride myself on my taste–that somehow my connection with them, even if it was just that I appreciated their finest qualities, enriched me. It was like, “I have obsessed about some of the hottest and most interesting men around, so I must also be incredibly hot and interesting.”  Funny.

Enjoy the video. Let yourself laugh. And if you’re fortunate enough not to understand these ladies, bless you–you’re lucky.


Reclaim Your Power, Part 4 of 4

December 27, 2011

First off, take note that this is an advanced move–and a move that’s particular for people who tend to err toward the side of being disconnected rather than overly-connected. It’s not to be toyed with when you’re just attempting to become sexually sober–you can get yourself back into trigger-land and find yourself browsing the digital […]

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Crying is so good for you, Part 2 of 2

December 16, 2011

Sometimes, however, I forget I’m a crier, and I get in this mindset that I have to keep up appearances… I go through dry spells that last weeks or months… Maybe I’m working with someone, and I think, “People don’t cry at work!” Or maybe I’m with my partner, and I think, “I shouldn’t be […]

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What are you waiting for?

November 30, 2011

“When I find my man, my life is going to be so perfect.” None of us says this out loud, right? Unless we’re making fun of some desperate chick who actually thinks that. But addiction to love works subtly and powerfully. It can be occurring to us right under our noses, without us even realizing it. One of the […]

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What to do in the middle of a meltdown

November 30, 2011

When I was deep into my love addiction, there were times when I would get so upset with a situation, or myself, that I would literally start to feel the wheels in my brain spinning out, smoking coming out of my ears, daggers from my eyes, fire from my throat. There were usually several factors […]

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In a fantasy about love?

November 16, 2011

When we’re single, we dream of being in a relationship. Even if it’s not conscious, we can tend to have the fantasy that, “One day, when I’m in a relationship, I won’t come home to an empty house.” or, “One day, when I’m in a relationship, my sexual needs with finally be totally fulfilled.” Yeah, […]

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