Get One-on-One Love Coaching with Alicia

(Are you ready to stop obsessing about love and find life fun again?)

Start the adventure to recovering your sense of humor, sense of perspective, and sense of Self!


Comedian Alicia Dattner

From Alicia Dattner
San Francisco, CA

Dear Fellow Romantic,

Do you love… love? I mean, is it the thing that gets you up in the morning? The thing that drives you to do all the other things? Do you ever feel like loving someone else (or a lot of someone else’s has caused you to lose your sense of self? Like some rogue part of you believes that other people have the Love, and you need It from them?

Marionette of Addiction

I did. Like a marionette, I spent 15 years letting love, relationships, and sex pull my inner puppet strings. I was pretty miserable. I spent all my time making myself seem incredibly cool, sexy, and interesting to other people. But one day I realized the truth: that everything I did was an elaborately crafted attempt to get men to love me. And damn, that was a lot of work.

I realized that if I kept going on that path of falling in love with everyone and everything but myself, I was going to die with my music still left inside me. So I wrote a comedy show about the pain of love addiction, and it changed my life. 

I don’t want you to die with your “music still inside you.” You are innately gifted and talented. You are powerfully intense. You are pulsating with aliveness. You have a gift to bring to the world. It may be covered over with layers of gunk, but that still small voice is always calling to you to be heard. Like in The Fly. Help me! Help me! Can you hear it?

So I invite you to:

Get One-on-One Coaching with me in a 10 week process to recover your joy!

I’ve developed a technique in which I assist you to tap into your own deepest wisdom and to allow yourself to hear this wisdom and integrate it into your life powerfully. I’ve had incredible results in just a few sessions. Clients are able to access great clarity, truth, and peace with very little effort and very high accuracy. They also find more playfulness, joy, and humor–all qualities of the higher vibrations!

If you long to hear exactly what your soul wants you to hear, right now… If you long to re-gain your sense of perspective, your sense of humor, and your sense of self…  and you’re ready to bring its wisdom into your consciousness, this work is for you.

Are you ready to experience intense aliveness, deep acceptance, and righteous truth-telling that culminates in a life-changing shift you bring to the world?


You know there is an f-ing powerhouse inside you waiting to be unleashed… but you need a way to access it. And everything you’ve tried up to now is so serious, heavy. You’re sick of all the hollow self-help affirmation bullshit that pumps you up with a lot of high-energy “you can change your whole life this instant!” stuff, but ignores what’s really going on and leaves you more obsessed and depressed than before.

Woman Uses Humor to Lighten Her Load

You know what you need is some kind of divine crowbar to pry you from your seriousness so you can get on with your life, right? But how?

Survey says? Levity! Humor is the divine tool that pries our ego from its death-grip. It’s Spirit’s gift to us… it allows us to look at the most painful, dark shit deep inside us and helps us trick ourselves into seeing what’s beautiful, good, and true in every moment.

If your heart says, “YES!” but your brain says, “Meh. I dunno…”
Here is some reassurance for your mind: You’ll get results you can count on.

I can guarantee you that if you put your heart into this experience, it will serve you well. So well, in fact, it will provide exactly the shift you want to make … both internally AND externally as expressed through your relationships with others.

Clean your slate and start anew with love and sex

Build real confidence and self-esteem

 Learn what’s not working with how you’ve been approaching “love”

Access your Higher Self to experience more love, acceptance and support

Learn to use laughter as your key tool for transformation

Turn your romantic “sob story” into a “romantic comedy”

Re-focus your brilliance toward your true passion

Re-discover your true voice, playfulness, and power


How does it work?
Here are the steps we’ll take together:


  1. Acknowledge what’s not working. With the help of your trusted Source, you can begin to recognize and accept what hasn’t been working.
  2. Surrender. If how you’ve been doing things so far isn’t working, surrender is a nice option. Kidding. It’s the only option – ha ha!
  3. Start feeling againAck! Feelings! What the heck do you do with those? Well, you may be familiar with the ol’ drama-queen Feelings with a capital F. But what we’re digging for here are the feelings underneath.
  4. Start creating again. From this place of perspective, we can begin to tell new, spacious stories to ourselves and others about our love lives.
  5. Start laughing again. Your truth can sometimes be hard to look at. But bringing in compassion is key. Laughter is deep compassion Laughter increases pain tolerance,strengthens the immune system, and releases endorphins and oxytocin.
  6. Recognize your brilliance. You are a child of the Universe. And I don’t mean that you should join a commune and start wearing beads. You’re a brilliant star, waiting to shine.
  7. Live your new story! As you venture forth into the world with your new story, you create a new trajectory for your life. Not only that, you’ll begin to see a whole new kind of life where the story actually doesn’t even matter any more.

Woman looking to the light, ready for change

If you are ready to get off the fence and commit to going higher and deeper–and lighter–it is your time to do this work.
If you want more from your relationships, more from yourself, and more from your Source, it is your time to do this work.
If you’re tired of coming from the place of ‘But I want more!’ … then it is your time to create more, by beginning our work together.


I invite you to begin your journey…


Schedule a Consultation

Don’t live in the Bay Area? I also work by Skype.
Email me (there’s no time like right now.)


 “Alicia is a very gifted facilitator. I am grateful to have met her.”


Still wondering if it’s time to finally let go
and love your life?

You’ve heard the cliche a million times, “Before you love someone else, you have to love yourself and your own life first.” Have you ever thought, “Well, no one ever frickin’ taught me how! I just don’t get how.” This process will not only show you how to love yourself, it will also teach you how to love others. And if you’re ready to let go, you can find what you’re looking for.

Don’t just take my word for it. Let folks tell you in their own words…

Astrologer Paul Bogle

“The recent visit from my family, went very smoothly and everyone seemed much more comfortable before, during and after our visit. There is nothing else to ‘explain’ what seems to be a healing from the family trauma, but I suppose the family constellation work and the voice-dialog work we did together is really having an effect on the whole family system.”
– Paul Bogle, Astrologer


So… are you feelin’ it right now?


Thinking about changing your lifeAre you feeling that inner tug that knows there is some irrefutable truth here? That you are in the right place? That no matter how you got here … something’s at play that’s bigger then you or us?

This may be the first personal growth workshop you ever attended that culminates in a comedic performance full of truth-telling and transformation!

If you’re tired of the “hard work” and the seriousness many teachers approach healing with, this process is for you.

Schedule a Consultation

Salvatore Manzi of Feng Shui Life Mapping“I’ve been having a great ride since our journey! Hard to explain, but there’s been a huge shift in my life with your work and a soul retrieval I just did… and it’s like my head was on crooked before. Thank you so much for your beautiful and healing work!!! Shine on!”

– Salvatore Manzi, Feng Shui Life Mapping (Salvatore did a one-on-one creativity coaching session with me)

“But what if…?”
Answers to Frequently Asked Questions:


  • What if I want to change my relationships, but I don’t really want to do the work? Ha!  That’s funny already! I imagine you could be just a little scared of how amazing your life could be.
  • What if I’ve already tried so many other thing and they just haven’t worked? Why this, now? This technique utilizes and builds on all the healing work you’ve already done–so it has a way of coalescing and sealing all that good intention into a powerful bubble that catapults you to your destination.
  • But there are a lot of other coaches out there for people with “love troubles.” Why should I work with Alicia? One word: humor. If you’re tired of taking yourself seriously, if you’re tired of the airy-fairy healing approach that’s not balanced out by a good dose of irreverence, if you’re tired of the struggle and strife of trying to “change,” this is the work for you.

Cutting the strings loose and finding freedom and love

 I walked away feeling lighter and more hopeful. I’ve turned a corner!

Dr. Susan Bernstein” Working with Alicia, I felt totally welcome. We meditated and then she listened to the issues I was facing.

She created a framework where I could work through these issues, and it was both super creative and compassionate. I walked away feeling lighter and more hopeful. Yes, she uses a great technique. But so much of the experience is Alicia and the person she is — intuitive, heartful, and caring. Thank you Alicia! : ) ”

— Dr. Susan Bernstein, Work from Within (Susan had a Family Constellation led by Alicia)


“I was amazed to see how much of a difference Alicia’s workshop made. The pace of my project accelerated, and I witnessed two blocked writers suddenly become prolific and a singer return to music for the first time in years.” 

Jason Fisher

“I find Alicia to be amazingly present, compassionate, gracious, playful, and vivacious.Working with Alicia is inspiring, effective, and fun, and she maintains a safe and comfortable space for creative and personal exploration and unfolding. Her ideas have helped me tremendously along my journey.”

— Jason Fisher, The World Peace Game (Jason took a Creativity Course with Alicia)

Did You Know Your Higher Self is Calling You?

Truthfully, who knows how much time we all have left to express our hearts fully in this life? Not because some ‘terrible fate’ awaits us all ….The call to self love is now because this is what your Soul is craving … and boy, does it want and need you to come alive… Yes, your Highest Self has your vibrant future waiting for you. And it may take a declaration of this magnitude to open your ears and your heart to hear their guidance.


This is the work you may need if you’ve ever had any of these thoughts or feelings:


You “lose yourself” in relationships, and don’t know how to pull yourself out of their grip

You tend to over-analyze, over-think, and generally take yourself too seriously

You know there’s more to love than the empty feeling you currently have… but don’t know how to get it

You are boring your friends and possibly even your therapist with the same stories about love

You have a crazy family–and you know joking about your childhood will help you take them–or you–less seriously

Your relationships always go the same way: bad, and you want to know how to do them differently

You used to be creative, self-expressed, and powerful and you want to find the way back to that kind of life

You’ve had a spiritual awakening… and now you wonder how to translate that into a shift in your love life

There is something bigger and more powerful that you are meant to do on earth… but your love life is getting in the way

“Why did I wait so long?  This was exactly what I needed.”

“This work brought me back in tune with a part of myself that I had lost.
I felt more grounded, focused and healed from the process.”

How to Know if One-on-One Coaching with Alicia is Right For You:

If you’re concerned that you’re not ready or don’t know how to really do this… then Oy to Joy is actually perfect for you. It’s truly a ‘sorting out’ place where you get far deeper clarity on that elusive, but powerful sense of self you are here to claim. On the other hand – if you know your “problem” clearly but just need more ‘mojo’ to move yourself out of an old pattern around love, you’ll find that here as well. Think of “Oy to Joy” as a place for spiritually-oriented women to surrender more deeply to your innate gifts, wherever you are in your love life. If you feel it in your gut that you are meant to be here… then you are.

Here’s what you get with the Oy to Joy Journey:

Five 60 minute Higher Self Coaching Sessions with Alicia in person or via Skype

Five 60 minute Family Constellations Sessions with Alicia in person or via Skype

Two check-in calls with Alicia

Want to start now?
Here’s what you get RIGHT NOW:

It is my pleasure to offer you all of the following the moment you enroll in One-on-One Oy to Joy coaching with Alicia. My aim is to help you ‘prime the pump’ so that you can come to our first session ready to dive right in:

A powerful flow of guided information from Alicia that will help you more forward to just where you need to be next, next and next in your journey

An engaging guide that provides additional material, resources, ideas and empowering content … so you’ll continue to get value in between each session

22 Secrets to Divine Creativity eBook

Three meditations to shift the focus of your energy & brilliance so you have more laughter and lightness in your life

Alicia Dattner’s Totally Reassuring Guarantee

It is my passionate commitment to serve you 100–no make that 111 per cent with this work — and I want to make sure it’s a fit for you. If for any reason you’re not entirely satisfied with The Oy to Joy Journey, you are welcome to a 100% money back guarantee until the end of the second week. All you have to do is ask and your money will be refunded, no questions asked. Your refund will be issued within one week to your credit card.

If I am meant to help you in this task, please sign up now. The transformation really does begin the minute you sign up. (If you’re like a lot of people, you’ll notice a new confidence and clarity in your relationships already!) Thank you so much for taking the time to read this fully. It is truly my greatest pleasure to serve you.

In love and laughter,

Alicia Dattner

The Oy to Joy Journey

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