Crying is so good for you, Part 2 of 2

by Alicia Dattner on December 16, 2011

Crying buckets of tearsSometimes, however, I forget I’m a crier, and I get in this mindset that I have to keep up appearances… I go through dry spells that last weeks or months… Maybe I’m working with someone, and I think, “People don’t cry at work!” Or maybe I’m with my partner, and I think, “I shouldn’t be upset right now!” I’m not even aware I’ve bottled it up, but I have, and it feels awful. It takes an act of surrender to allow myself to feel again, to surrender to the tears.

Why surrender to the tears? Because you’re fully present when you’re allowing a full body wail. And all you’re doing is feeling and being. You’re not eating, you’re not drinking, you’re not yelling, you’re not breaking things. You’re just processing emotion. So it’s good for you and it’s good for everyone around you. As long as you do it in private. Or in the arms of a loving sister (or brother, or whatever.)

Like my acting teacher used to say, “Don’t worry about going overboard. You can always dial it back. Just see how far you can go.”

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