Tools for Getting Centered

Reclaim Your Power, Part 2 of 4

by Alicia Dattner on December 23, 2011

It feels shitty to realize you’ve given your power away in love. You might think, “I wouldn’t do that! I like power. I don’t want someone else to have control over my happiness.” But you’re human, and you live in the world, and many families don’t teach their young truly how to relate cleanly with […]

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Reclaim Your Power, Part 1 of 4

by Alicia Dattner on December 23, 2011

Ever feel like you’ve been deflated by a date or a partner? That somehow whatever was going on with them was suddenly way more important than what was going on with you? I used to have the sensation that The Party is over there and I have to go there if I want to have […]

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Crying is so good for you, Part 1 of 2

by Alicia Dattner on December 16, 2011

I am a crier. I cry and cry and cry. My partner calls it “leaking,” which makes me cry more when I’m already crying. I cry when I’m sad, when I’m frustrated, when I’m angry. I cry when I make love. When I’m happy, when I’m grateful, when I spot a rainbow. Or watch someone on […]

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What to do in the middle of a meltdown

by Alicia Dattner on November 30, 2011

When I was deep into my love addiction, there were times when I would get so upset with a situation, or myself, that I would literally start to feel the wheels in my brain spinning out, smoking coming out of my ears, daggers from my eyes, fire from my throat. There were usually several factors […]

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In a fantasy about love?

by Alicia Dattner on November 16, 2011

When we’re single, we dream of being in a relationship. Even if it’s not conscious, we can tend to have the fantasy that, “One day, when I’m in a relationship, I won’t come home to an empty house.” or, “One day, when I’m in a relationship, my sexual needs with finally be totally fulfilled.” Yeah, […]

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