Spirituality

Reclaim Your Power, Part 3 of 4

by Alicia Dattner on December 26, 2011

In sobriety, there’s a little thing called “white knuckling.” It’s what you do when you hold on really, really tight to stay in control and make really, really sure you don’t screw up. For alcoholics, you might white knuckle it so you don’t drink. But for love or sex addicts, it’s a little less clear […]

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Reclaim Your Power, Part 2 of 4

by Alicia Dattner on December 23, 2011

It feels shitty to realize you’ve given your power away in love. You might think, “I wouldn’t do that! I like power. I don’t want someone else to have control over my happiness.” But you’re human, and you live in the world, and many families don’t teach their young truly how to relate cleanly with […]

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What are you waiting for?

by Alicia Dattner on November 30, 2011

“When I find my man, my life is going to be so perfect.” None of us says this out loud, right? Unless we’re making fun of some desperate chick who actually thinks that. But addiction to love works subtly and powerfully. It can be occurring to us right under our noses, without us even realizing it. One of the […]

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What to do in the middle of a meltdown

by Alicia Dattner on November 30, 2011

When I was deep into my love addiction, there were times when I would get so upset with a situation, or myself, that I would literally start to feel the wheels in my brain spinning out, smoking coming out of my ears, daggers from my eyes, fire from my throat. There were usually several factors […]

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