This year, I happen to have a boyfriend, and we were both busy on Valentine’s Day–I had a comedy show and he had a telesummit–and we basically postponed Valentine’s Day for later. It’s funny–the day sort of passed un-noticed to a large extent in comparison with how it used to be before I went into [...]
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Have you ever heard, “Happy Valentine’s Day!” and thought, “Same to you too, buddy.“? To tell you the truth, I don’t actually remember many Valentine’s Days since fourth grade when we’d all hand out our 30 Snoopy cards to all the kids in the class. Why don’t I remember them? See, Recovering alcoholics say New [...]
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First off, take note that this is an advanced move–and a move that’s particular for people who tend to err toward the side of being disconnected rather than overly-connected. It’s not to be toyed with when you’re just attempting to become sexually sober–you can get yourself back into trigger-land and find yourself browsing the digital [...]
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In sobriety, there’s a little thing called “white knuckling.” It’s what you do when you hold on really, really tight to stay in control and make really, really sure you don’t screw up. For alcoholics, you might white knuckle it so you don’t drink. But for love or sex addicts, it’s a little less clear [...]
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It feels shitty to realize you’ve given your power away in love. You might think, “I wouldn’t do that! I like power. I don’t want someone else to have control over my happiness.” But you’re human, and you live in the world, and many families don’t teach their young truly how to relate cleanly with [...]
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Ever feel like you’ve been deflated by a date or a partner? That somehow whatever was going on with them was suddenly way more important than what was going on with you? I used to have the sensation that The Party is over there and I have to go there if I want to have [...]
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Part 1: The Pull If you’re like me, you’ve spent a lot of time in your life strategizing about how to get the love you want, the way you want, at the time you want it. It can be subtle and difficult to notice that it’s happening. Or it can be really obvious. Or really [...]
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“When I find my man, my life is going to be so perfect.” None of us says this out loud, right? Unless we’re making fun of some desperate chick who actually thinks that. But addiction to love works subtly and powerfully. It can be occurring to us right under our noses, without us even realizing it. One of the [...]
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