Recovering from Addiction

I Can’t Stop Thinking about Tony…

by Alicia Dattner on April 3, 2012

The Kids in the Hall, a sketch comedy group from Canada in the 90’s had some brilliant things to say about love addiction. This sketch has stayed in my mind for twenty years–I just watched it again, and it made me laugh out loud (which is hard to do). It’s so over-the-top, but SO ARE […]

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Reclaim Your Power, Part 4 of 4

by Alicia Dattner on December 27, 2011

First off, take note that this is an advanced move–and a move that’s particular for people who tend to err toward the side of being disconnected rather than overly-connected. It’s not to be toyed with when you’re just attempting to become sexually sober–you can get yourself back into trigger-land and find yourself browsing the digital […]

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Crying is so good for you, Part 2 of 2

by Alicia Dattner on December 16, 2011

Sometimes, however, I forget I’m a crier, and I get in this mindset that I have to keep up appearances… I go through dry spells that last weeks or months… Maybe I’m working with someone, and I think, “People don’t cry at work!” Or maybe I’m with my partner, and I think, “I shouldn’t be […]

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What are you waiting for?

by Alicia Dattner on November 30, 2011

“When I find my man, my life is going to be so perfect.” None of us says this out loud, right? Unless we’re making fun of some desperate chick who actually thinks that. But addiction to love works subtly and powerfully. It can be occurring to us right under our noses, without us even realizing it. One of the […]

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What to do in the middle of a meltdown

by Alicia Dattner on November 30, 2011

When I was deep into my love addiction, there were times when I would get so upset with a situation, or myself, that I would literally start to feel the wheels in my brain spinning out, smoking coming out of my ears, daggers from my eyes, fire from my throat. There were usually several factors […]

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In a fantasy about love?

by Alicia Dattner on November 16, 2011

When we’re single, we dream of being in a relationship. Even if it’s not conscious, we can tend to have the fantasy that, “One day, when I’m in a relationship, I won’t come home to an empty house.” or, “One day, when I’m in a relationship, my sexual needs with finally be totally fulfilled.” Yeah, […]

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